There. I said it.
Last year I spent Ramadan by myself so I was the only hangry person that I had to deal with. But, I have this personal philosophy that you shouldn’t make other people suffer for your own problems. Have I always been a shining example of this? No, but I try my best.
This year, I’m spending it with family and am around a lot more Muslims than before. Let’s just say I’ve seen some childish and rude behaviour coming from some of them. Like, everyone can be chilling, doing their thing, getting iftar ready and then one person has to come in and ruin the mood. Snapping at people, talking down to them, being disrespectful, yelling, complaining are some things I’ve seen some people do this month and I am not impressed.
I won’t go into details, but I’m surprised that there are people who walk around like they’re the best of the ummah but so easily throw away a fast. Yelling, insulting, berating, and taking out your hunger on everyone else is not a part of Ramadan and is the exact opposite of what the Prophet (SAW) would do. Ramadan isn’t just about being hungry and thirsty, y’all. Those are just the basics. This is a time to practice respect and kindness towards others. If we have the strength to face a day without food and water, we should also have the strength to refrain from destructive actions and words. We’re all fasting this month, we’re all hungry and sleep-deprived, so treat those around you with love and kindness.
This message is for everyone, including our elders. Astaghfirullah, I’ve seen some of the worst behaviour from them. May Allah (SWT) protect our hearts from growing stubborn and prideful as we age. Being older than another person does not give us the right to disrespect them or treat them poorly. Especially if we’ve been observing Ramadan for years, we should have the wisdom to monitor our behaviour and hold our tongues when we are about to speak in frustration. And if we do speak out of turn, we should have the humility to ask for forgiveness.
Ok, rant over. I just had to get that off my chest because I can’t say anything in person. You are all amazing and I wish you happy fasting! Also, go take a nap if you need it. xx